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Was relieved to return to work after trying to set up the house for good 3 days, gladly the knicknacks were in place.
After the house set up, it was time to take charge of the impending seperation -- Divorce indeed. Quick visit to the lawyer followed by mutual consent drafts being made ready to be sent to him.Distance was duly maintained from him , including the kid was away from his phone calls . Inlaws- outlaws were certainly in a fix on what next ?The first mail was sent to him soon with the draft enclosed , the contents were harsh enough for him to back track.In the interim hubby tried luring me back with a over the top emotional mail stating how we both meant the world to him etc etc . Obviously it failed to move me from my decisive state of mind..that's probably my biggest strength..my mental resolve is too hard to break through by anybody. Once decided..there is no looking back.
Giving up hope of any reconciliation now , Hubby replied back denying the alimony amount and no custody of child as debatable points . I urged him to come back to me with revised draft which he deemed fit to take things further. This unfortunately fell on deaf ears .He remained incommunicado thereafter for over a month. No calls, texts or BBM pings worked ( yes we indeed transacted via BBM back then to avoid any verbal confrontation).Things at home were getting no better, I was walking a tight rope walk putting things together from scratch , balancing career goals and personal glitches. Parents were still in mute mode . Maternal uncle and aunt got in touch and vouched their whole hearted support to me which made matters little better to handle . Trust me , moral support from any unknown quarters is always more than welcome at such trying times , so don't ever hesitate to take it as it comes.
Thankfully enough my guardian angels kept me close company and their support was worth lacs for me in those times of building up a home of my own.Deliberate delays of answering back from hubby was getting on my nerves and we then decided to take the bull by its horns. Met up lawyer again and filed for divorce petition. Thankfully by then kid's result was out and I took it upon me to break the ice with my folks over a small call. With maternal aunt intervening for peace , things started limping back to normalcy between us . However, till date I have never been able to forgive them for leaving me alone in my dire need...forgiving doesn't quite come easily to me indeed.
Draft of the petition was read aloud with my folks and with due suggestions , we decided to file it in court of law soon. With this meant summons being issued to hubby for his presence in court. The trial by fire was just only about to begin...Without wasting any more time, I filed the petition in the court by myself ( yes I went there alone ,fiercely independent that I am, declined any help from my folks to accompany me ).
Silently I knew that the journey ahead was certainly not a cakewalk...but I lived up to my conviction and let truth chose its path.The next 1.5 yrs encapsulates what I underwent at each date in the court ,the anxiety, the anger, the bitter truth, with finally being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel...
Love
Neha
Was relieved to return to work after trying to set up the house for good 3 days, gladly the knicknacks were in place.
After the house set up, it was time to take charge of the impending seperation -- Divorce indeed. Quick visit to the lawyer followed by mutual consent drafts being made ready to be sent to him.Distance was duly maintained from him , including the kid was away from his phone calls . Inlaws- outlaws were certainly in a fix on what next ?The first mail was sent to him soon with the draft enclosed , the contents were harsh enough for him to back track.In the interim hubby tried luring me back with a over the top emotional mail stating how we both meant the world to him etc etc . Obviously it failed to move me from my decisive state of mind..that's probably my biggest strength..my mental resolve is too hard to break through by anybody. Once decided..there is no looking back.
Giving up hope of any reconciliation now , Hubby replied back denying the alimony amount and no custody of child as debatable points . I urged him to come back to me with revised draft which he deemed fit to take things further. This unfortunately fell on deaf ears .He remained incommunicado thereafter for over a month. No calls, texts or BBM pings worked ( yes we indeed transacted via BBM back then to avoid any verbal confrontation).Things at home were getting no better, I was walking a tight rope walk putting things together from scratch , balancing career goals and personal glitches. Parents were still in mute mode . Maternal uncle and aunt got in touch and vouched their whole hearted support to me which made matters little better to handle . Trust me , moral support from any unknown quarters is always more than welcome at such trying times , so don't ever hesitate to take it as it comes.
Thankfully enough my guardian angels kept me close company and their support was worth lacs for me in those times of building up a home of my own.Deliberate delays of answering back from hubby was getting on my nerves and we then decided to take the bull by its horns. Met up lawyer again and filed for divorce petition. Thankfully by then kid's result was out and I took it upon me to break the ice with my folks over a small call. With maternal aunt intervening for peace , things started limping back to normalcy between us . However, till date I have never been able to forgive them for leaving me alone in my dire need...forgiving doesn't quite come easily to me indeed.
Draft of the petition was read aloud with my folks and with due suggestions , we decided to file it in court of law soon. With this meant summons being issued to hubby for his presence in court. The trial by fire was just only about to begin...Without wasting any more time, I filed the petition in the court by myself ( yes I went there alone ,fiercely independent that I am, declined any help from my folks to accompany me ).
Silently I knew that the journey ahead was certainly not a cakewalk...but I lived up to my conviction and let truth chose its path.The next 1.5 yrs encapsulates what I underwent at each date in the court ,the anxiety, the anger, the bitter truth, with finally being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel...
Love
Neha
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