Trial by Fire

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Was relieved to return to work after trying to set up the house for good 3 days, gladly the knicknacks were in place.

After the house set up, it was time to take charge of the impending seperation -- Divorce indeed. Quick visit to the lawyer followed by mutual consent drafts being made ready to be sent to him.Distance was duly maintained from him , including the kid was away from his phone calls . Inlaws- outlaws were certainly in a fix on what next ?The first mail was sent to him soon with the draft enclosed , the contents were harsh enough for him to back track.In the interim hubby tried luring me back with a over the top emotional mail stating how we both meant the world to him etc etc . Obviously it failed to move me from my decisive state of mind..that's probably my biggest strength..my mental resolve is too hard to break through by anybody. Once decided..there is no looking back.

Giving up hope of any reconciliation now , Hubby replied back denying the alimony amount and no custody of child as debatable points . I urged him to come back to me with revised draft which he deemed fit to take things further. This unfortunately fell on deaf ears .He remained incommunicado thereafter for over a month. No calls, texts or BBM pings worked ( yes we indeed transacted via BBM back then to avoid any verbal confrontation).Things at home were getting no better, I was walking a tight rope walk putting things together from scratch , balancing  career goals and personal glitches. Parents were still in mute mode . Maternal uncle and aunt got in touch and vouched their whole hearted support to me which made matters little better to handle . Trust me , moral support from any unknown quarters is always more than welcome at such trying times , so don't ever hesitate to take it as it comes.

Thankfully enough my guardian angels kept me close company and their support was worth lacs for me in those times of building up a home of my own.Deliberate delays of answering back from hubby was getting on my nerves and we then decided to take the bull by its horns. Met up lawyer again and filed for divorce petition. Thankfully by then kid's result was out and I took it upon me to break the ice with my folks over a small call.  With maternal aunt intervening for peace , things started limping back to normalcy between us . However, till date I have never been able to forgive them for leaving me alone in my dire need...forgiving doesn't quite come easily to me indeed.

Draft of the petition was  read aloud  with my folks and with due suggestions , we decided to file it in court of law soon. With this meant summons being issued to hubby for his presence in court. The trial by fire was just only about to begin...Without wasting any more time, I filed the petition in the court by myself ( yes I went there alone ,fiercely independent that I am, declined any help from my folks to accompany me ).

Silently I knew that the journey ahead was certainly not a cakewalk...but I lived up to my conviction and let truth chose its path.The next 1.5 yrs encapsulates what I underwent at each date in the court ,the anxiety, the anger, the bitter truth, with finally being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel...

Love 

Neha 

A new Dawn...

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Finally the day closed in with all my belongings shifted to the new house ..My Guardian angels kept me company till late evenings as I was unpacking one box after another.

Exhausted by the day long hard work , physical and verbal war of words , sleep engulfed me soon in a silent zone of my very own...my baby steps towards the new beginning had been taken. Relieved much, I indeed slept peacefully that night after long.

A New dawn welcomed me in its fold with new roles, responsibilities and I was ready to face the world now with renewed vigour..as I took small sips of my first tea at my new haven.I took 2 days off from work citing family function so as to set up the new house in order before my baby arrived that evening .Between tiny morsels of food and water managed alone, I got unpacking the boxes and putting the house in order, first things first.Ordering the bed , TV, mattress to sleep on were some bare essentials which set the order of the day .Having worked in good kitchen space, a tiny space called kitchen was hard to work on..(moreover getting to fit all my stuff in was indeed tricky) .Thankfully the small loft came to my rescue which was duly used up to dump in all the extras / non urgent stuff aside .

As evening drew by, I was becoming impatient to see my child who was kept in that house for a day till I managed the basics in place. 1 brownie point for him to have agreed to keep the kid for another day however disgruntled he may be with me for my exit.My car still lay parked in the old house , since I had barely learnt driving and couldnt have managed the short distance as well ..hehe. I jumped on my best buddy--my twowheeler and raised the accelerator to take me fast to my destination.

Little more  bags  with toys and her essentials we left the house . The maid was entrusted with the task of looking after the luggage on the road below till I made a quick trip to drop my kid on the bike . My second trip with the maid in tow left me tired enough for the day, not to mention 3 times ascent into my fourth floor abode which didnt have a lift.Finally the house became a home with the advent of its new family members ( the maid was also part of family by now ).

Hubby casually called on the landline to check on us , which was a bit of surprise for me ( was it becoz he was left alone to fend for himself or was it genuine concern ? )Whatever it may be , I was feeling happy over my new found freedom which obviously came with its share of new challenges but, I knew I was ready for anything now ( mental strength is mightier than physical might...maybe YES)

Setting up a  new home on my home gave me a new high nevertheless despite having umpteen reasons to worry about... My time had indeed begun now ...Girls....remember the old adage .. SELF help is the BEST help.

More bytes soon

Tc

Neha